- Read around the issue
How about reading what other former boarders have to say?
- Then have a look at some of the reading or viewing in our Resources section, particularly the TV documentary, The Making of Them.
- These may help you feel that you are not alone.
- Get a hold of two key books:
- Nick Duffell’s The Making of Them (2000)
- Joy Schaverien‘s Boarding School Syndrome (2015)
- Read them, feeling free to relate what they say to your own experiences. They are easy to read and contain revelations for former boarders.
- Find a therapist or counsellor If your therapist/counsellor is not familiar with boarding school issues, refer them to this website.
- Boarding Recovery is a growing network of psychotherapists and counsellors who specialise in working with former boarders.
- We suggest your therapist/counsellor also reads Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege: A guide to therapeutic work with boarding school survivors by Nick Duffell and Thurstine Basset (2016).
- Contact us if you need help finding a suitable therapist/counsellor.
- Consider joining a workshop run by Boarding School Survivors
Boarding School Survivors (founded by Nick Duffell in 1990) hold weekend workshops annually in London. Many former boarders have found these workshops affirming and liberating.
- Think about supporting us
Through this whole process, you might like to support Boarding Concern and receive our newsletters, which include stories and creative writings from other former boarders. You can also sign up to our Forum. We hold conferences where you can meet others with a similar experience to yourself.
What ever steps you take or emotions you experience, know that you are not alone and we are always available to give referrals and support. We hope that you meet others on your journey to growth and self-awareness. Above all we wish you well.
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