Rich parents neglecting their children are ‘using lawyers and powerful friends to scare off social workers’

Social workers’ experiences have been detailed in research commissioned by the City of London Corporation

Social workers have told of wealthy parents using lawyers, intimidation and powerful connections to shield their families from intervention over cases of neglect.

Their experiences have been detailed in research commissioned by the City of London Corporation.

It notified its children’s and safeguarding committee today it was adopting findings of the Goldsmith’s University study into its Service Improvement Plan.

The study focused on social workers serving 12 local authorities around the UK, excluding the City, to hear their experiences of confronting neglect among affluent families.

Professor Claudia Bernard’s study pointed out that while much research and social work training was focused on links between poverty and child neglect, it was rarely directed at wealthy families.

Previous research has suggested such abuse had gone under-detected, because of a bias in child protection authorities toward scrutinising families of lower socio-economic status.

However, emotional neglect among wealthy families could be difficult to determine, Prof Barnard said.

Psychotherapist and “boarding school syndrome” author Professor Joy Schaverien welcomed the research, saying she hoped the findings were noted by other local authorities.

She said her boarding schooled clients experienced early emotional isolation that left lifetime effects on sufferers’ ability to form healthy relationships.

Children live without love in these situations,” Prof Schaverien said. “It’s very difficult when you’re a child and you’re being told by your parents ‘it’s very good for you, we’re paying a lot of money for you; you had better make the most of it‘.”

Get West London


CPS makes commitment to male victims of sexual abuse

Boarding Concern welcome the announcement today that the Crown Prosecution Service (CPS) are “to issue guidance on handling cases of abuse against men.”

“The CPS has published its first ever public statement recognising the needs and experiences of male victims of offences including rape, […] and child sexual abuse.

Many male victims of these crimes never come forward to report them to the police. This can be for a variety of reasons, including fear that their masculinity may appear to be diminished if they report […] abuse or that homophobic assumptions will be made around their sexuality if they are raped by a man.

The CPS has always been committed to securing justice for all victims, both male and female, and applies policies fairly and equally. It has worked with groups which represent the interests of male victims to explore the issues they face in relation to these offences.”

While welcoming this progress, Boarding Concern want to see the CPS commit to securing justice for those who suffered abandonment, neglect, bullying, assaults and other trauma by being sent away to boarding school.

That these forms of child abuse continue to happen in the UK in the 21st century is a disgrace.

Eurasian who went to British boarding school breaks his silence over abuse

How a Chinese mother’s dream of an English education for her son placed him at the mercy of a tyrannical ‘discipline master’, who was accused of both physical and sexual abuse during his time at the Grace Dieu Manor House, in England

Next month, thousands of Chinese children from Hong Kong and the mainland will head off or return to boarding schools in Britain for a prized education, but it was not always so.

When I arrived at my English prep school in 1953, having been raised in Shanghai and Bangkok, I was the only Eurasian out of the 100 or so boys at Grace Dieu Manor House, in the Leicestershire country­side. Asians would remain a rare sight at the school for a few decades more, until I was followed by a stream of Hong Kong Chinese in the run-up to the handover of the British colony to China, in 1997.

South China Morning Post Magazine

Scotland: Emotional abuse and child neglect to be criminalised in new law

THE Scottish Government is to bring forward a new law to criminalise the emotional abuse and neglect of children.

Childcare and early years minister Mark McDonald announced the move in response to the publication of two reports on child protection.

Mr McDonald told MSPs at Holyrood that the Children and Young Persons (Scotland) Act 1937 would be updated to recognise the impact of emotional abuse and neglect, as well as physical harm.

It follows the findings of a review of the child protection system led by independent chair Catherine Dyer and the publication of the Government’s child protection improvement programme report.

Mr McDonald said: “This Government is determined to ensure more of Scotland’s children get the best possible start in life. This means protecting the most vulnerable in our communities from harm, abuse and neglect.

The Scotsman

Scottish Government

How I came to terms with the horrors of my boarding school abuse

Mark Stibbe, a former vicar who lives in North Yorkshire, is among those to claim to have been abused by youth worker John Smyth, who ran Christian holiday camps. As other victims waive their right to anonymity, here he tells his story in full.


Forthcoming book by Alex Renton

This is the story of generations of parents, Britain’s richest and grandest, who believed that being miserable at school was necessary to make a good and successful citizen. Childish suffering was a price they accepted for the preservation of their class, and their entitlement. The children who were moulded by this misery and abuse went on – as they still do – to run Britain’s public institutions and private companies.

Confronting the truth of his own schooldays and the crimes he witnessed, Alex Renton has revealed a much bigger story. It is of a profound malaise in the British elite, shown up by tolerance of the abuse of its own children that amounts to collusion. This culture and its traditions, and the hypocrisy, cronyism and conspiracy that underpin them, are key to any explanation of the scandals over sexual abuse, violence and cover-up in child care institutions that are now shocking the nation.

As Renton shows, complicity in this is the bleak secret at the heart of today’s British elite.

Due for publication in April 2017 by Weidenfeld & Nicolson/Orion Books and available from Amazon and other sources.

Family bonding is more important than loveless boarding

Boarding schools are ‘orphanages for the privileged’ which all too often create people driven to succeed at work but who fail to engage emotionally at home.

That’s the view expressed by Mark Stibbe in his new book, Home at Last.

Mark says that, for many people, the journey from private boarding school education to political, civic and military leadership is a troubled one.

“Children sent away at an early age are forced to adapt far too early to the rigours and challenges of life away from their family,” he argues, “and people who have risen to leadership have often suffered the trauma of abandonment and, in some cases, abuse.”

Home at Last at Amazon UK

How my husband’s ‘boarding school syndrome’ affected our marriage

It’s a subject that can test even the happiest of marriages: that of whether, and when, to send the children to boarding school. Last week Mike Tindall revealed he had no plans to follow Royal tradition and send his daughter, Mia, to board – despite the fact that Mia’s mother, Zara Phillips, and a long line of Royals before her, including Prince Philip and Prince Charles, attended the elite Gordonstoun school in Scotland.

“I know many people who say boarding was the making of them…but I don’t really want her to be distanced from us,” said the former England rugby captain, who attended Queen Elizabeth Grammar School in Wakefield as a day student. “Personally, I’d rather she attend a school that’s nearby, where we’ll always be on hand if she needs us. Anything else goes against my instincts.”

He is not the first to call into question the long-term emotional legacy of being sent away to school too soon.

[Prof Joy Schaverien quoted…]

Daily Telegraph

UK boarding schools still not coming up to their own minimum care standards

The Yorkshire Post’s investigation reported:

“Other areas where standards were not met include minimum standards for boarding schools. The notice said this included ensuring medication is safely and properly stored; that boarders can contact members of their family in private and that boarders can personalise an area of the accommodation if they wish.”

UK boarding schools pretend that they are communities when they still bear all the hallmarks of restrictive total institutions.

This investigation confirms what we regularly hear from parents and care staff in boarding schools.  They still apply abusive, restrictive sanctions to pupils in arbitrary and inappropriate ways.  So much for “modern” boarding here in the UK.  Nothing has changed.

The Daily Mail has also picked up the story, reporting on the cavalier attitude and denials of some schools to their failings.

The Yorkshire Post

Daily Mail

‘State sector Eton’ for inner-city boarders fails to live up to the hype

There are many questions for the government to answer about problems over plans for Durand academy’s West Sussex boarding school outpost…

…but a social care inspection in June judged its boarding provision to require improvement on all counts. Findings included poor safeguarding documentation, lack of compliance with the school’s own health and safety policy, lack of appropriate fire safety, children not being routinely able to contact parents in private, risk assessments not being consistently adhered to, and insufficient oversight of policies and procedures by the leadership team.

The Guardian

Ofsted Report